Trauma is an inescapable human experience. Since every person experiences events differently, based upon personality, sensitivity, past memories, etc., what may be nothing to one can crush another.
An accident or injury is a trauma. Whether you stub a toe, break a bone or get hit by a car, each accident produces a traumatic response that is very unique to the individual.
Why? We all have varying levels of resistance and acceptance, pain thresholds, tolerance for discomfort, and past memories that we subconsciously carry with us.
Either way, TRAUMA is Too Real Ad Surreal to Manage Alone!
To an athlete, trauma is magnified simply because it affects not only their physical abilities and lifestyle, but it touches the core of who they are.
I will be starting a series of supportive information, techniques and methodology that address every aspect of injury, from the physical to the emotional, including the effects on relationships, attitude and spirituality.
To begin, I offer a brief description as to who I am, my story and what led to my expertise in this field. My tragedy that I call me gift can be seen here. I highly recommend viewing this short video as I do not want to take time going into the details of my accident.
Suffice to say; even 5 years after its occurrence, I was tossed, by surprise and emotionally held-captive by its traumatic effects.
I was in the hospital, taking a friend to day surgery when I broke out into a panic. Please understand that this was a totally different hospital then the one I spent 3 weeks and multiple visits to, and I have been to multiple hospitals many times with other people since my accident. I even work in a hospital, yet yesterday, for some unknown reason, the trauma was re-enacted. Perhaps it was a scent…a word I overheard, but I wanted to jump out of my skin. I suddenly felt claustrophobic, crowed. The lights irritated me, there was too much noise; I couldn’t breathe and my heart started to race. I found my tension mounting, but I knew what to do, how to calm myself, thoughts to focus on, breathing exercises, etc.
I’d been here before…many times!
- Can you imagine if I didn’t have the tools to handle this on my own how alone, frightened and worried I’d be?
- Would a medical doctor be able to help if this happens to you? No! They would mask it by offering you Xanax or something.
- Are psychologists on hand? No, and if they were, they’d need an elaborate background history on you and multiple sessions before they could begin to address your trauma.
- Can your physical therapist or rehab person help? Sure, with your body parts, but not your trauma experience.
So who is versed in such unexpected uprisings enough to assist you? SOMEONE WHO HAS LIVED IT, FOUND THE TOOLS TO NOT ONLY GET THROUGH IT, BUT HAS PROVEN TO HAVE WON AGAINST THE ODDS. I have lived what some may experience – need support with…and through research, trial and error, and experience, I offer what works.
Trauma takes the ordinary and exaggerates it to paralyzation.
A simple crossing the street after an accident can result in nightmares, fear of cars, people. I couldn’t even cross the parking lot in the supermarket to walk to my car without panic. I would scream, cringe, and overreact to any vehiclthat passed me. I cowered in the back seat of cars, because I could not be in a car with someone else driving.
A simple phone ringing can make a traumatized person jump out of their skin,. Standing on line or being in a crowd can elicit pain, constriction, feeling trapped, confined, breathlessness, panic. Trauma also includes loss – loss of a lifestyle, a change in routine, feeling neglected, forgotten and lonely.
Dealing with fears becomes more difficult with the callousness of the medical community. Feeling totally helpless and dependent on others for basic needs or not having the faculties to care for yourself, chips away at your confidence.
I recall feeling abandoned, harassed, judged, inadequate, weak, depressed, hopeless, and sometimes even faithless. Having been immobile and sleeping for months in a chair, never seeing the upstairs of my home and having to sit for hours upon hours in one place, alone and helpless, could have destroyed me, but it made me stronger.
I don’t mention this for sympathy…that is one response that is NOT helpful. So let’s get started!!!
My next post will be looking at “Being Where You Are At NOW.